I don’t know what to do anymore
Posted: March 31st, 2020, 10:32:49 pm
Something that’s been bothering me for awhile is that my father never listens to anything I say. He is “always” right and I’m always wrong in his eyes and he will do anything to win and argument. The problem though is that I feel like I’m turning into him, he treats me so differently from my younger sister and he treats me like a mirror. He sees himself on me and I’m sick of it, he’s always trying to put his past mistakes on me like I’m going to do the or like I’ve already done them. He’s so harsh with me and doesn’t treat me like a daughter but more like a sibling and it’s driving me insane. He nitpicks everything I do and always loses his temper with me over little things. Every time I try to talk to him and call him out he just gets mad and yells at me till I run away crying and lock myself in my bedroom as he talks behind my back downstairs to my mother. My mom can’t do anything because he’s as stubborn as a mule and she’s just given up. I’m afraid to tell him things because he either doesn’t care, doesn’t understand, doesn’t agree, or it’s something that he did that’s negative. I don’t know what to do because we have a very strange relationship and when we get along it’s good and I don’t want the good to go away but I don’t know how I can solve the bad.
He always thinks that I’m gonna mess up and never trusts me to do anything, he literally will helicopter over me when I cook because he’s afraid I’ll set the house on fire or something it’s insane. He freaks out over every little thing I do like if I spill water on the floor he screams at me that I’ll warp the floor and destroy it even though it was like a little droplet of water on the floor. He’s so loose when it comes to my younger sister but so much stricter and harsh with me it’s unfair and I don’t understand. He’s very passive aggressive and always brings up stuff from the past so he can win and argument.
It’s hard on his behalf too, he grew up with a pretty abusive family and is an war immigrant so he’s never met his real parents and has been in and out of foster care growing up so that’s taken a large toll on his mental health I just wish he would maybe try to help himself too but he won’t, he needs to talk to someone about these things but he won’t and takes his frustration out on me, because in his eyes, I’m him.
He always thinks that I’m gonna mess up and never trusts me to do anything, he literally will helicopter over me when I cook because he’s afraid I’ll set the house on fire or something it’s insane. He freaks out over every little thing I do like if I spill water on the floor he screams at me that I’ll warp the floor and destroy it even though it was like a little droplet of water on the floor. He’s so loose when it comes to my younger sister but so much stricter and harsh with me it’s unfair and I don’t understand. He’s very passive aggressive and always brings up stuff from the past so he can win and argument.
It’s hard on his behalf too, he grew up with a pretty abusive family and is an war immigrant so he’s never met his real parents and has been in and out of foster care growing up so that’s taken a large toll on his mental health I just wish he would maybe try to help himself too but he won’t, he needs to talk to someone about these things but he won’t and takes his frustration out on me, because in his eyes, I’m him.