I used to feel the exact same way. If you'd be receptive to some friendly advice... you've gotta let that hate go. It will eat you up inside and drive you crazy. The same happened to me. It took a lot of work, but I'm finally able to see value in all life. I believe that everyone pays their dues eventually, be it in this life or the next. It honestly took one of my family members doing someone wrong for me to see that sometimes... it's more than just a cut and dry thing. He was messed up on all kinds of drugs and didn't even remember it hardly. It does not excuse the actions... but I love him and I had to work to forgive him. I wouldn't even talk to him I had so much hate in my heart... and he was there for me all the time. I was rejecting him and calling him horrid names from a mistake he hardly even remembered. I'm happy to say, however, that after a long while, our relationship is stronger than ever. He forgives me for calling him horrible names, and I've forgiven him for the wrong he did. It woke him up... he got clean and the girl he did wrong even forgave him. He cried on her when she did. They cried together. It was then that I realized.. if she could forgive him, and my mother could forgive her father (who raped her from a young girl until her late teen years)... then I could forgive the people who did me wrong... and I would try to see more than just the cut and dry side of things.shinitenshi wrote:I think the rapist should have his balls cut off and thrown in prison and if the rapist is female well sterilize her and have her turned into a prostitute since she obviously likes sex let her have it from people who want it just not the people of her choosing. Either that, or have the victim of the rape whether male or female decide the punishment for his or her tormentor. For the record I am a female and hate rapist of either sex with a unholy passion because friends both male and female who have been broken by rape. I want justice done and if you cannot call this justice, call it vindictive and vengeful, but these will still satisfy my hatred.
Point is... you've gotta let some things go. How is your blinding hatred helping anyone or anything? Truthfully. It's not stopping rape. it's not preventing it. It's not getting people punished more severely. And I doubt it helps your blood pressure or well-being. So why hold onto it? You can be intolerant of an action without weighing yourself down with all that rage. It doesn't make you wrong or less concerned to not be so intense about your opinions. There's a difference between having strong opinions and standing up for them, and plaguing yourself with hatred of something you desperately wish you could stop but ultimately have no control over. It's why I focus so much of my time helping rape survivors... talking to them... being there for them and more. You can't change what will happen or fix what has happened... but you can make a difference for those who need help.
That's it for my advice. Thanks for reading, if you did.
