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Re: How Was Your Day Thread V5

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Solbrekt wrote:i also find it a bit disconcerting that it's considered marysue for a couple to not be constantly having huge, drastic arguments and fights. i mean i'm personally about as romantic as a mummified turd so hey maybe i don't know shit about how that's supposed to work but i really don't think that not being in a toxic relationship should be considered a bad thing.
Ugh, 100% this. I'm not romantic at all and am personally disinterested in relationships, but I hate it when people say big, dramatic fights/arguments are realistic and normal. My parents don't fight. They've been together for many years, love each other, and they don't do that.
And when I used to insert romance into my stores (...I... don't anymore, since I get less and less interested in romance as I get older, for some reason), I'd occasionally have people complain that the characters weren't fighting more often. It would be more "believable" and "realistic" if they argued a lot!
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Re: How Was Your Day Thread V5

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I'd like to add that it is not normal for 100% of couples to be having drastic/constant/horrendous fights (though some real life very loving human couples have disagreements and that is completely different) is not usually indicative of a functional romantic relationship.

IE) My parents had dramatic knock-down-dragouts and were not at all good for each other. They wound up breaking up and my mom and dad STILL have knock-down-dragouts with their respective 'new attempts' (boyfriends/girlfriends/wife) and act like it is completely normal/expected. My mother even gets 'bored' in a non-dangerous/toxic romantic relationship. 0.o They also have dramatic breakups with lots of horrible feelings all around and 'smearing' each other online/to their families.

IE2) My fiance and myself may have differing opinions and will have friendly discussions about such subjects. We do not have fights/dramatic arguments/toxic stuff, and we are just fine. My relationship feels safe, secure, and I feel perfectly normal and confident to have differing opinions with my fiance. I can't even imagine us fighting about anything? We've had disagreements, but no fights.

IE3) My little brother has had several different relationships in the past, and lots of breakups. Every single relationship ended with him and the individual being either friends with or 'not in contact with but not angry at each other' situations except for with one girl that he broke up with specifically because she wanted to start fights all the time and it "Tired (him) out because (he) don't (doesn't) like to fight." -shrug-


I guess what I am trying to say is though every relationship is different and lots of people find ways to make things work (even maybe dramatic fights for some I guess?) it is also perfectly normal to have an adult, calm, and respectful (to both individual's opinions alike) relationship.

It shouldn't be considered mary-sue to have a non-toxic relationship type. Well, if the characters have to have a romantic relationship at all (there is a lot of romantic-spectrum erasure in media).

I'd like to note that I feel strongly about this because any time I talk to my mom she is constantly going on and on about how 'I need to prepare for when the fights start' and how I'm 'definitely going to start fighting with him at some point' and even that I 'Need to grow up because a relationship like [mine] is not normal and we are both faking being nice to each other'.
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Re: How Was Your Day Thread V5

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Anira wrote:OH MY FUCKING GOD, PEOPLE! MILLE FLEUR IS A COLOR! NOT A BREED! SO SPECIFY THE GOD DAMN MOTHERFUCKING BREED!

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This. ^

I own mille fleur Bearded D'Uccles, and I've had to explain to several people that mille fleur is not the breed name, it's the coloring of the birds, since I have been asked why I don't advertise my 'mille fleur chickens.' I do advertise them, but by the breed name, not their coloring. Honestly, if I advertised my birds by coloring, I'd have like 20-30 birds listed rather than just the 5 breeds I actually have.


I am actually more bothered though by the fact that I consistently see Easter Eggers marketed and sold as Ameraucanas. Even the Co-Op I buy feed from sells them this way and it nags the heck out of me, but they told me that's what their supplier sells them as and they have to list them as whatever the supplier lists them as. :derp:
OMG, YES! Just because that's what the hatchery or feed store or whoever labeled them as, doesn't make it so! I guarantee you you aren't going to be paying $3 for a TRUE Ameraucana. :angry:

D'Uccles are my most favorite breed, so it really bugs the hell out of me when people call them "Mille Fleurs".

I finally snagged some from the bantam bin this year at the feed stores. I know the cockerel isn't a d'Uccle, he's just a booted bantam. But the pullet, and another pullet, are d'Uccles. My first one that made me fall in love with the breed unfortunately died because the person who took her, and the rest of my chickens, didn't provide proper care and shelter for them through winter (and in general, he had WAY too many and wouldn't cull all of his roosters that ran loose everywhere). Needless to say I was very upset to hear that when I asked if I could have her back, along with my Silkies....
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Re: How Was Your Day Thread V5

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Anira wrote: OMG, YES! Just because that's what the hatchery or feed store or whoever labeled them as, doesn't make it so! I guarantee you you aren't going to be paying $3 for a TRUE Ameraucana. :angry:

D'Uccles are my most favorite breed, so it really bugs the hell out of me when people call them "Mille Fleurs".

I finally snagged some from the bantam bin this year at the feed stores. I know the cockerel isn't a d'Uccle, he's just a booted bantam. But the pullet, and another pullet, are d'Uccles. My first one that made me fall in love with the breed unfortunately died because the person who took her, and the rest of my chickens, didn't provide proper care and shelter for them through winter (and in general, he had WAY too many and wouldn't cull all of his roosters that ran loose everywhere). Needless to say I was very upset to hear that when I asked if I could have her back, along with my Silkies....
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Sorry to hear you lost yours. I too lost my first D'Uccle that also made me fall in love with the breed. His name was Baby Boy. He was really fond of me, liked to be carried around and even perched on my head or shoulder as I went about doing chores. 'Like a parrot' my mother said. Never once pooped on me. He was in a mixed assortment of bantams that I bought. Was the first time I ever saw the breed, did some research, and learned what I had.

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His loss was rather tragic. I am firmly against any sort of fabric around my chickens (even those 'chicken saddles') because at the time we used a small blanket in the coop in the nesting box, and he managed to get a hold of a loose thread from that very blanket, which then wrapped around his esophagus and when he struggled, he ended up pulling everything out. He was still alive when we found him, but nothing could be done to save him. Hardest thing we ever had to do.


However, his death prompted me to go out and buy a small flock of D'Uccles specifically, mille fleur and a few other colors. Haven't had any parrots like him, but they all have their own quirks. I have a mottled rooster that just cracks me up. He's in his own little coop with a couple of ladies. When he sees another rooster walk by (I have my extra roos I couldn't find homes for free-ranging), he fluffs himself up as big as he can and shuffles back and forth. He actually reminds me of a miniature turkey tom when he fluffs up.
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Re: How Was Your Day Thread V5

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I'd like to add that it is not normal for 100% of couples to be having drastic/constant/horrendous fights (though some real life very loving human couples have disagreements and that is completely different) is not usually indicative of a functional romantic relationship.

IE) My parents had dramatic knock-down-dragouts and were not at all good for each other. They wound up breaking up and my mom and dad STILL have knock-down-dragouts with their respective 'new attempts' (boyfriends/girlfriends/wife) and act like it is completely normal/expected. My mother even gets 'bored' in a non-dangerous/toxic romantic relationship. 0.o They also have dramatic breakups with lots of horrible feelings all around and 'smearing' each other online/to their families.

IE2) My fiance and myself may have differing opinions and will have friendly discussions about such subjects. We do not have fights/dramatic arguments/toxic stuff, and we are just fine. My relationship feels safe, secure, and I feel perfectly normal and confident to have differing opinions with my fiance. I can't even imagine us fighting about anything? We've had disagreements, but no fights.

IE3) My little brother has had several different relationships in the past, and lots of breakups. Every single relationship ended with him and the individual being either friends with or 'not in contact with but not angry at each other' situations except for with one girl that he broke up with specifically because she wanted to start fights all the time and it "Tired (him) out because (he) don't (doesn't) like to fight." -shrug-


I guess what I am trying to say is though every relationship is different and lots of people find ways to make things work (even maybe dramatic fights for some I guess?) it is also perfectly normal to have an adult, calm, and respectful (to both individual's opinions alike) relationship.

It shouldn't be considered mary-sue to have a non-toxic relationship type. Well, if the characters have to have a romantic relationship at all (there is a lot of romantic-spectrum erasure in media).

I'd like to note that I feel strongly about this because any time I talk to my mom she is constantly going on and on about how 'I need to prepare for when the fights start' and how I'm 'definitely going to start fighting with him at some point' and even that I 'Need to grow up because a relationship like [mine] is not normal and we are both faking being nice to each other'.
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Man, I'm so sorry for your mom's situation. It sounds like you and your fiance are doing well, though, and I wish you the best! I totally agree that friendly discussions and disagreements are fine. Obviously we're all human, we're all individuals, and of course we're going to have differing opinions, so expressing those opinions, being civil about it, and kindly agreeing to disagree is great. I feel it's a good discussion when two people can understand each other's opinions, where they're coming from, and respect them without ever getting argumentative. It's nice
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Re: How Was Your Day Thread V5

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I hate waiting for someone to call me, especially when they gave a broad term. "I'll call you Monday Afternoon"....... 12pm - 4pm is considered afternoon. I really don't wanna hang around the house waiting, but I have too many areas in town where I have no service and I need to talk to this banker.
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i dont know if anyone would be able to help, but..

my kitten is shaking, and i dont know why. she's eating and drinking normally, as well as using the bathroom. her eyes aren't cloudy or gunked up. she'll play in spurts and then stop. she seems to want to sleep more than normal.

im really scared because i lost my old cat to a bladder infection earlier this spring, and i dont have any money to see the vet at the moment.

we did have to leave her alone for the 4th of july, and im wondering if that harmed her mentally...

i feel so terrible because i dont know whats wrong, and it kinda feels like no one believes me when i say that i think there might be something wrong......

please help...if you can..
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Re: How Was Your Day Thread V5

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Dancingstar wrote:i dont know if anyone would be able to help, but..

my kitten is shaking, and i dont know why. she's eating and drinking normally, as well as using the bathroom. her eyes aren't cloudy or gunked up. she'll play in spurts and then stop. she seems to want to sleep more than normal.

im really scared because i lost my old cat to a bladder infection earlier this spring, and i dont have any money to see the vet at the moment.

we did have to leave her alone for the 4th of july, and im wondering if that harmed her mentally...

i feel so terrible because i dont know whats wrong, and it kinda feels like no one believes me when i say that i think there might be something wrong......

please help...if you can..
Do you have a human society/animal shelter anywhere near you? I know it can be a toss up, but they often help people with low income/no funds, at least to diagnose the issue (call a few times if the first time is a no, some employees might let it slide or "fudge" the information a bit out of their love for animals).

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